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Your safety is your primary concern. Listed below are tips that can enhance safety. Use what will work for you and make your own safety plan that fits your needs at the moment.  Staff at A Way Out can help.



If you are in an abusive relationship, think about....

  1. Having imortant phone numbers nearby for you and your children. Numbers to have are the police, hotlines, friends and local shelter.

  2. Find friends or neighbors you could tell about the abuse. Ask them to call the police if they hear angry or violent noises.  If you have children, teach them how to dial 911. Make up a code word that you can use when you need help.

  3. Plan how to get out of your home safely and practice it.

  4. Locate safer places in your home where there are exits and no weapons. If you sense abuse is about to happen try to get to one of these rooms.

  5. Even if you do not plan to leave, think of where you could go. Think of how you might leave. Try doing things that get you out of the house - taking garbage out, walking the pet or going to the store. Put together a bag of things you use everyday (see checklist below). Hide it where it is easy for you to get.

  6. Go over your safety plan often.


If you consider leaving your abuser, think about...

  1. Four places you could go if you leave your home.

  2. People who might help you if you left. Think about people who will keep a bag for you. Think about people who might lend you some money. Make plans for your pets.

  3. Keep change for phone calls or get a cell phone.

  4. Open a bank account or get a credit card in your name.

  5. How you might leave. See above no. 5.

  6. How you could take your children with you safely. There are times taking your children with you may put all of your lives in danger. You need to protect yourself to be able to protect your children.

  7. Keep a bag of things you use everyday hidden where you can get it.



If you flee, items to take include...


Keys to car, house, work

Extra clothes


Important papers for you and your children:

  • Driver's License, birth certificates

  • Social security cards

  • School and medical records

  • Cash, credit cards

  • Driver's license and car registration

  • Passports, green cards, work permits

  • Lease/rental agreement

  • Mortgage payment book, unpaid bills

  • Insurance papers

  • PFA, divorce papers, custody orders

  • Address book





If you have left your abuser, keep in mind...

  1. Your safety - you still need to!

  2. Getting a PFA from court. Keep a copy with you all the time. Give a copy to the police, people who care for your children, their schools and your boss.

  3. Changing the locks. Consider putting in stronger doors, smoke and carbon monoxide detectors, a security system and outside lights.

  4. Telling friends and neighbors that your abuser no longer lives with you. Ask them to call police if they see abuser near your home or children.

  5. At work ask a person to screen your calls. Consider giving work a copy of your PFA with abuser's picture. Think about and practice safety at work including going to and from work.

  6. Try not to use the same stores and businesses you did with your abuser.

  7. Have someone to call if you feel down. Think about going to a support group or workshop.

  8. Have a safe way to communicate to your abuser if needed.

  9. Go over safety plan often.


Abusers try to control their victims' lives. When abusers feel a loss of control - like when victims try to leave them - the abuse often gets worse. Take special care when you leave and be careful after you leave.






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